What about if this is as good as it gets?

In the movie 'As good as it gets' a patient walks out of a psycholigists office into the waiting room full of others queuing to see the same doctor.

  He stops and looks at the people waiting and says
 'What about if this is as good as it gets'? 

This is a good question to ask yourself because otherwise you may always be waiting for something better, more healed, more happiness and it is always in the future. The present gets lost in a habit of being discontented with everything, every day. Nothing is ever good enough, mainly ourselves.

Many people talk about positive thinking and of course it helps but sometimes it drives you mad. It becomes just another reason to be miserable, that you aren't thinking positive, that you don't look like those white teethed smiling people who are enjoying themselves. You can set yourself up for disaster by never achieving lofty goals you think you should be reaching but know you can't. It is a self defeating way of living.

Right now is as good as it gets. If it is not as good as you want it to be you can at least make a future image that you would like to achieve, knowing that you may not reach it, but that is ok too.

Everything is so goal orientated now that you feel if you are not suceeding there is something wrong with you. You can go on course after course and feel uplifted for a while after, but then it fades and you need a new fix, more money spent. You will never reach a nirvana because it does not exist in the future. It is here right now at this very moment whether that moment is good or bad. There is no other choice than to learn to be content with very small things. To be content with your life.

Simplifying your life will help you to become at peace with yourself. If you are someone who is always busy and can't stand the thought of doing little maybe that is just what you need, even if it is for just a short while.

The problem with us lies in thinking we are not good enough, our life is not good enough, our partner and friends are not good enough. In starting to think that we are good enough and everything in our life is good enough we can start to realx about that. In turn what happens is we begin to stop fighting with ourselves, stop fighting with ourselves and others. The things we thought were so important start to not matter. We start to notice little kindnesess, little joys where before we were always looking for big things, always wanted more. We can still have goals but maybe they could be achievable ones, for now. Then as we let go we see that in fact this is as good as it gets and we let the future take care of itself.