The narcissist is just a trickster, a stage hypnotist, a mentalist, you need to know this.

 You know the word narcissist well, in fact you are sick of hearing it and even talking about it. But you may not have heard of, or at least be familiar with, the word mentalist. I bet you know a few stage hypnotists though, a few magicians.


The fact is if you lived with a narcissist you probably lived with a mentalist, someone who knew how to get into your head, like a stage hypnotist. So what does it mean? In simple facts it means they tricked you. Everything they did was a trick, a slight of the hand, a magical illusion. This is no joke, it is really serious. No offence to magicians or hypnotists lots of people get entertained by them but personally I stay away from anything like that now I am informed. I don't like to see staged shows where hypnotised unconscious people are made fools of just to get a laugh. Narcissistic abuse survivors and family scapegoats will know already how this feels. They don't think it is entertainment at all. In fact it is a form of Covert and Overt Bullying.

 As narcissistic abuse survivors you need to know what these people are up to. Some of them have clubs training narcissists in the art of seduction and trickery. I know it sounds fantastical but then life after narcissistic abuse brings home a few unbelievable truths doesn't it. So I wrote this blog incase you are not familiar with how big and how organised it all is. How woven it is into society under the guise of romance and how we all enable it, leaving our daughters and sons open to abuse.

 Click on the links and do some research yourself because once you know what they are up to you can read the signs. Ignorance is not bliss when it comes to narcissists. What I want to do with this post is to encourage you to think about narcissists not just as an isolated person, your narcissist or it happened to someone else to, but to also to see this as groups of them. Not to scare you but to know what these people are up to and many of them are swapping stories right now, working out how to seduce and trick you and even running courses on it . Don't underestimate this.

 So what is a mentalist and what psychological tricks  might they be playing on you?

 This is how Wiki how to describes a mentalist
"A mentalist is an individual who appears to have supernatural powers in divining the truth about an individual as well as many facts about that person's life. A mentalist must be great at decoding, possess observational skills, and have a highly developed ability to observe minute detail. Many people, from criminal profiles to magicians, all use mentalist tactics and a working knowledge of psychology to interpret human behavior. Mentalists can not only get attention, but they can also entertain literally anybody on this planet."

Sounds like a narcissist? Yes indeed!

So now you have a flavour of what exactly is going on outside your little bubble of narcissism you will understand what exactly you are up against. You will see that as many people as there are who only want to help each other, there are also as many who are using methods that are used to trick and get one over on others. Those with no empathy who will do whatever it takes to get what they want. They don't see that they could get something on their own merit like the vast majority of people, no these folk enjoy the chase, seduction, tricking, getting one over on you. It is these tricksters that make genuine people lose out because one loses trust after being manipulated. But not everyone is like this. Some people don't have the personality to do this, it would abhore them to manipulate another,  and both good men and women both are destroyed by these manipulative people.

These techniques are also used in religion and spiritual groups. It works well in this way because the audience is full of willing participants. The same techniques are used in these groups as with individuals to hypnotise their followers. In this video Derren Brown shows how he hypnotised atheists into converting with one touch. Who know maybe it was all actors but we know enough to see that some people are more easily hypnotised than others.

This site is a great resource for explaining fully how hypnosis is used in all walks of life but especially by governments and military ops.There is so much information if you look for it beyond narcissistic abuse sites. Once you start to recover from abuse you get really interested in the bigger picture. You see how most things are not isolated incidents but are in fact a pattern of behaviour hidden within a group, within society. Abuse not carried out by just an individual but as a weakness and dysfunction  enabled by society.

So I hope I haven't scared you too much, it's a lot to take in. But if you don't believe me check it all out for yourself. What happened to you was not personal, against you, even though it was experienced on a personal level, it was an endemic sickness within society. If you freed yourself of it, got away and stayed away from your abuser/abusers you need a medal. It takes great strength to overcome the manipulation of mind controlling narcissists. Because that is all they are, mind controllers. Learn to train your mind in any way possible so that others don't do it for you.